Posted on: May 05, 2021
When a person has Alzheimer’s disease or other dementia, the language centers of the brain are often damaged. This, combined with profound forgetfulness, often makes it hard for persons with dementia to understand us, and for us to understand them.
A few general tips:
At Christian Horizons and its Pathway Memory Support program, we have developed an innovative tool called a “Conversation Starter Card.” The card is written out for every resident or in-home client, providing our caregivers with some starting points to bring up favorite subjects that may still be quite available in longer-term memory.
For example, a resident with dementia may be quite forgetful and have some language difficulties but when we ask, “Tell me about growing up on that wheat farm in Walla Walla, Washington,” the resident will light up, smile, and tell you stories from childhood.
Persons with dementia often remember key accomplishments or successes, so a conversation card might suggest that we say, “You won the Nurse of the Year for the State of Illinois twice! That is an amazing achievement. Tell me more about that.” This could lead to an hour-long conversation about nursing and working in this healing profession (after all, “once a nurse, always a nurse!”)
If you are caring for someone at home, create your own Conversation Starter card that can be used by any visiting professionals or if your family member needs to go to a medical appointment (or faces a hospitalization). This will facilitate communication and connection.
If you would like a copy of the Christian Horizons, Pathway Memory Support Conversation Starter Card, contact your local Christian Horizons community.